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Today I stood at the bus stop for 10 minutes waiting for the bus before I remembered that I drove to school today.

What can I say? It's been a busy week :)

tuesday rundown

5.45 yoga, 9.00 meeting at work, 10.30 groceries, 11.00 baked cookies for tomorrow, 12.00 coffee with friend,13.00 project meeting for school, 14.00-20.30 classes, 22.00 home.

It's been a fantastic day and a gorgeous night. After 9 hours indoors it was a relief to step outside into the crisp autumn air so I decided to walk to the next subway stop...and then the next...and then the next...until I ended up just walking the whole way home (after stopping in little Korea to buy walnut cakes from my favourite walnut guy - a girl needs some sustenance).

The walk home has chased away sleep. While blogging can't counter the effects of the night air it does offer a darn good way to put some of the random 'stuff' floating through my mind 'out there' so, here goes:

--was reading the emergency directions for those with mobility impairments at school today (they were there, I was bored). They can be summed up as the following "get to a phone, call xxx extension, and sit tight until someone comes for you". Really? If my institution's emergency plans were that flimsy I think I'd avoid posting them altogether.

--"I joined a gym so that next time I'm attacked, I can run", so stated during a recent intake. I can't shake the matter-of-fact way the student shared this information. Nor can I shake the fact that given her age, her gender and where she lives it very likely is a matter of 'when' not 'if'. The resilience of the clients I work with is as great as their stories are horrific. It's truly humbling.

--recent conversations about love: one person hypothesized that sometimes you love someone until the hurt they inflict grows greater than the love you have for them, and the other was less a conversation than an observation; I. has been married for 37 years, in the time I've known him I've seen him cancel travel plans, care incessantly for an ill wife without complaint, and recently curtail almost all of the activities that sustain him to be there for both his sick wife and her mother (who's not so nice to him). That, too, is love.

--tonight when I stopped to wish on a star (yeah, I still do that), there was nothing to wish for. I gave thanks instead.

A few months ago I put to paper some of the goals/hopes/visions/whatever I held for myself and then promptly forgot about the entry until today while flipping through my journal during class. It's amazing how many of the things I'd envisioned have happened or are well on their way to happening. More than that, it's interesting to see just how much has happened since I've returned to Toronto and to see that (despite myself at times ;) learning is there.

The cookies I mentioned at the beginning of this entry are down four, definately time to get myself to bed before there's nothing left to bring into work tomorrow.

And so ends the longest entry ever :)

I'm attending a series of workshops this weekend presented by A.G Mohan and his son, Ganesh which is very cool; the Mohan family have studied yoga in connection to Ayurveda, physical and mental health extensively and I've been reading their books for years (A.G. Mohan and his wife, Indra, literally wrote the book on Yoga Therapy). Although I was looking forward to the workshops on an intellectual level, interested in what I might learn, I wasn't expecting to be this jazzed. Something happened tonight, I left the workshop filled with a sense of quiet excitement and found myself making plans as I drove home.

More and more I'm interested in yoga as a form of therapy. In keeping with that, more and more I feel like my Masters is just another step in preparing me for something larger instead of the means to an end that it was when I started it (this is both frustrating, another 'beginning' step?, and ridiculously exciting). Mohan studied with Krishnamacharya, as did my teacher Pattabhi Jois, however his approach is quite different from Jois'. Mohan, like Krishnamacharya's son, Desikachar, works with students in individual sessions assessing their needs and creating tailored asana and pranayama programs. I love this.

I planned on travelling to Chennai to study at Desikachar's institute in 2005 before the powers that be brought me to Mysore instead. I've no doubt that Mysore was where I was supposed to be at that time and I can't see myself ever leaving my ashtanga practice, it's as much a part of me as breathing is, but I've never really seen myself teaching it in the traditional way. Actually, I've never seen myself as a yoga teacher, period, but I have always known that I was going to work as a therapist with individuals/groups and that yoga would play some role in that therapy. Lately it feels like the drive to start moving towards that vision won't be put off much longer.

Desikachar runs a 2 year teacher training program that I expect to enroll in one day, there's a teacher training program beginning in Toronto in January and the Mohan's run a 2 month intensive training program every October-November, also in Chennai. It's a good thing I picked up some contract work to carry me through this school year because it looks like I'm going to be a student well beyond April as originally planned ;)

And the Mohans? They were knowledgeable, humble, light and filled with humour. I'm looking forward to the rest of the sessions.

Tuesday

So, yesterday was a good day.

Left the house at 5.30am and returned at 10pm. In between I practiced (lovely), prepared & delivered a presentation (went well), and had 7hours of classes (which were interesting) before catching the subway home. Like I said, a good day.

Except for the fact that yesterday I DROVE into the city.

Lately I've sensed an energy of questioning among those I've met both personally and professionally; not an unhappy or depressed questioning but more a curious one - what else is out there? It's a strange autumn in that sense; far from preparing for a long winter rest, we seem to be rousing ourselves to seek what it is we need. At the same point in time, there's an urgency there, a drive to figure it out now, have the answers now; this I feel very strongly.

Whether I feel frustratingly immobile or amazingly blessed depends so much on the situation. When I think about it, one of the biggest differences is the degree of commitment I bring with me; the very areas where I'm struggling are the same where I haven't actually arrived at a decision yet. In some cases they're also the ones where I've been waiting for others to help with decisions that are mine alone to make. Still, I'm reminded that there's no rush.

Playing with the possibilities is as relevant as committing to a dream. The beauty of this time of year is that the winter provides time to allow our questions to gestate and play with the possibilities that emerge, all we have to do is make room for the dream to form. And, really, there is no rush (I say this more for my benefit than anything else, I seem to have to remind myself a million times a day to just sit with it - whatever it is I'm struggling with - just sit with it. Surely it'll stick one of these days ;)

one elementary truth

This poem arrived in an email today and I'm happily posting it. There's something gorgeous and understanding and compassionate about it that I find timely.

Until one is committed,
there is hesitancy,
the chance to draw back,
always ineffectiveness.

Concerning all acts
of initiative and creation,
there is one elementary truth
the ignorance of which
kills countless ideas and splendid plans:
that the moment one definitely commits oneself,
then providence moves too.

All sorts of things occur
to help one that would never
otherwise have occurred.
A whole stream of events
issues from the decision,
raising in one's favor all manner
of unforeseen incidents,
meetings and material assistance
which no man could have dreamed
would have come his way.

Whatever you can do
or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius,
power and magic in it.
Begin it now.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Snow? What snow?

There was snow today. It only lasted long enough to make its presence known before disappearing into the cold, unforgiving corner from which it emerged. But, still, snow! The funniest part about it was our reaction: we happened to look out the window at the same time to see the evidence highlighted in the lights of a passing car and the conversation missed a beat as we registered that what we were seeing was not rain but snow - big, fluffy snowflakes - before we all began talking at once, as if to erase what we'd just seen. Snow? I didn't see any snow, how about those Leafs?

Coming from the girl who broke out her electric blanket in mid-August, this is not good news. If you need me, I'll be in bed where it's warm. Until June.

heaven's ass

Something came up with someone, somewhere in the family and although I forget who, what, and why, the outcome was the rescheduling of Thanksgiving for sometime later in October. Accordingly, instead of heading to my Aunt's for thanksgiving dinner, tonight my mother, sisters and I headed to my Grandmother's for a decidedly un-thanksgiving Chinese food dinner. To broke to buy flowers, but knowing my little sister would show up with a huge bouquet, I didn't want to arrive empty handed so I decided to bake dessert.

Forgetting that I always try to make cobbler and it always looks horrible, I made pear cobbler. Last week I bought a box of pears because they were both locally grown and on sale. It seemed like a good idea at the time but, I've discovered that I can only eat so many pears before I begin to dread opening the fridge just to see them sitting there, looking hopeful (pick me! pick me!). When I saw the recipe for pear cobbler I must have been so excited over the word 'pear' that I completely blanked on the 'cobbler' part.

Predictably, it looked horrible. Horrible enough that, if you happened to be behind my sister and I as we walked to our Grandmother's, you would have heard a conversation a little something like this:

Sister: Here, you carry this (passes the cobbler back to me), I don't want to carry it, it looks like ass
Me: But it tastes great
Sister: Yeah, well it looks like ass. I'm not carrying it through Grandma's place
Me: But, seriously, it tastes like heaven
Sister: It may taste like heaven but it looks like ass. It's heaven's ass. I'm still not carrying it.

For the record, we were both right. It did taste great and it did look like ass; I didn't want to be seen carrying it either, that's how she ended up with it. We compromised by hiding it in my bag under my computer and the family compromised by hiding heaven's ass under mounds of vanilla ice cream. Heaven's ass pear cobbler and Chinese food: a new Thanksgiving tradition is born.

i have a secret

Ok. Don't tell my dentist or anything but I am in absolute agony. I know, I know, telling my dentist sounds like the logical thing to do but here's the thing: the agonizing-please-put-me-out-of-my-mercy pain isn't coming from the tooth I had the root canal on yesterday. It's coming from another tooth. A tooth far, far away from the root canal tooth. Which means that my teeth have banded together and are engaged in a not so quiet revolution against me.

I've spent the morning engaged in countless activities designed to distract myself from the agonizing pain in my head. Fun things like cleaning and, when that failed, pinching myself because, yeah, introducing pain to some other area of my body does actually help distract me from the throbbing, all consuming pain that's colonized the right side of my skull. So why not call the dentist? Because I absolutely cannot, will not entertain the idea that I might have to add ANOTHER $3,000 to my already huge dental bill.

It's Thanksgiving weekend in Canada and, despite my toothache (did I mention it's causing agonizing pain? ;), I am thankful. I'm thankful that I'm writing in my lovely, clean apartment with the sun streaming in the window, thankful that I'll see my family this weekend and that we're all healthy and happy, thankful for my cat sitting on my lap purring, and thankful that my sister, as per my request, will shortly be sneaking into my apartment and clubbing me over the head with some kind of blunt object to put me out of my misery.

In lieu of further complaining and in recognition that it is Thanksgiving and there is so much to be thankful for, I leave you instead with a quote that I found scribbled on a piece of paper stuck way back under the couch this morning when I was cleaning. It's nice.

"Your daily life is your temple and your religion. And your body is the harp of your soul. And it is yours to bring forth sweet music from it or confused signs" Kalil Gibran, The Prophet.

Happy thanksgiving everyone. Hope you're able to find the sweet music in the realities of your everyday lives in your own unique way over this thanksgiving weekend :)

the cost of falling apart

I've been thinking a lot about my body lately. Not, of course, in any kind of self-congratulatory way (a North American woman with a positive body image? Isn't that grounds for expulsion?), but more in a 'Wow! You too!?' way. You see, it seems that I'm falling apart.

I know I've whined before the litany of physical complaints that accompanies big changes in my life and this time around is no different. I haven't been too frustrated because by now I expect them. You could say we have a gentleman's agreement: I continue to take a nice, stable life and throw it into upheaval and my body continues to respond by making it difficult to sit, stand, walk, climb - in general, to move. It works. But now my body is messing with my ability to eat and that is most definitely NOT in our agreement. At least, not to my knowledge. But then, as I thought back over the past few years, I realized something; I realized that my body has been breaking our agreement and tossing in random additional injuries for as far back as I could remember.

Here's the deal. Last week one of my molars broke (well, dissolved, really) so I need a root canal and reconstructive work. Up to this point I've just been irritated by the cost, pissed that I can't eat, and frustrated that this happens every time I leave a job and lose my dental insurance leaving me scrambling to cover the costs. Every. Single. Time. And then it hit me. It's not just my back that responds to change, it's my teeth too. My mind, unconscious, equilibrium - whatever - is so freaked out by change that even my teeth, those things that remain long after the rest of the body has turned to dust, they crumble at the sight of a bagel.

I've decided that I either succumb to a nice, stable life - stop changing careers, stop leaving great jobs to travel, stop ignoring the very stable lawyer type boys - or I get better health coverage because this shit is getting expensive. Whenever I contemplate spending a large chunk of money I usually think first about where that money could fly me if I were to put it to a plane ticket instead. That's why I still have a mattress on a floor instead of a bed. I could buy proper furniture but I'd rather go to New York for the weekend.

This root canal thingy I have going tomorrow? Two separate trips to India. That's all I'm saying.